Why We Should Stop Caring About What Other People Think
For a long time I have been thinking a lot about what society does to us. We wonder about a hundred of things every day that we shouldn`t have to think about. What are they thinking about me? How does my life look to others etc...? It`s an array of a self doubt that affects us daily. Just imagine how free we would be if we would let go of all of those thoughts and just stopped caring. Here are 5 tips that helped me to break the stale cycle and helped me live at my own pace.
1. Life doesen`t have to follow a certain timeline
There are so many pressures from society what we should overcome at a certain age. We tend to believe that we have to own particular things or behave in a certain way for the society to accept us. We have been told since we were kids that when we grow up we should graduate high school, go to college, get a degree, get a good job, get married and have children and then retire. And the same timeline continues on our own children Why? Why do we have to follow a certain timeline for society to accept us? I wish that the society around us would change a little, because whatever you decide to do in the end is your own business, because in the end whatever happens affects you and only you.
2. Get to know your true self
Have you ever wondered how many of us really know themselves? Do you even know? What do you really like? What do you really want from life? Are you making these choices in life about career, ralationships etc. because you want them or because you want to impress someone. Stop for a minute and think. Allow yourself to try new things that you have always wanted to do and don`t be afraid about being judged. Enjoy yourself and do what you really love!
3. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and accept a helping hand
Sometimes we need to go against the grain, speak out what we want, take a risk or face a disapproval. The life wouldn`t be interesting if we would always been playing it safe. Decide what matters to you and trust yourself and if you fail, then remember that we grow by failing. We learn and we now how to act in the similar situations. Also if you fail, then allow yourself to reach out for the help and care you need instead of letting yourself to suffer.
4. Find out who you need in your life
Find your own tribe. There are definitely people around you who appreciate you for who you are. No judgements, no bad comments. Let go of the peple who make you feel not yourself, don`t waste your time hanging on those who excpect you to conform to their wihes and wants. Surround yourself with those who you really enjoy being with.
5. Live your own life
Be your own friend, learn to love yourself and the life you are living. Stand up for what yourself, do the things that you love, be happy. Live your life at your own pace and terms. You don`t always have to do the things that the society tells you to do. You can live and try the things that you, and only you want.